Who has the right?

“Too much of anything is poisonous.” Many are the times I used this phrase in composition writing back in the day without really paying too much attention to it. It was just a phrase, you know, just used so that the English teacher (it has a very humongous difference when you say English teacher) could add marks to my composition; colloquial expressions, English Aid Std 6, I used you so much I feel like I should pay you. I know, I’m diverting, silly me. But really, to what extent have you thought of this phrase. How true, false or in between the middle it might be. This is what addiction represents, to me at least. Something one will start, slowly by slowly until they are totally encompassed by it that survival without it seems unfathomable. But isn’t it too much?

Addiction, according to the fifth edition of The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), is defined as a maladaptive pattern of substance use leading to clinically significant impairment, or distress, as manifested by several specific characteristics, occurring any time in the same12-month period ( Read the book on more). So basically this is a situation where the too much has been used that it has actually become poisonous. A situation where the tolerance level increases over time. A situation where the psychological, social, biological and environmental factors have, in one way or the other, contributed in the development and maintenance of the addiction; whether to a substance like drugs or to behaviors like gambling, sex, etc.

Back to my first paragraph. The issue of “it” being too much, who will see it as being too much? Who even has the right to see it as too much? Who gives authority over that anyway? The user or the observer? What is the criteria of classifying it as too much? When do we realize that it is too much? When are we allowed to even comment or act upon the fact that it is too much?

Sometimes it’s easier to point a finger forgetting that three others are pointing back. It is always easy to judge the other person without even paying attention to the numerous skeletons we have in our own closets. We tend to jump into conclusions without even paying attention to the little aspects that end up changing the entire perspective. Basically, it’s a tendency. They are addicted to sex; they must have been raped or watched a lot of porn. They are addicted to drugs; they must have poor decision making skills to just follow their peers without thinking. Psychologically speaking, any form of addiction speaks volumes but first of all, it is a symptom of some underlying issues. It is a state where the cognitive, behavioral and body functions are distorted because of a behavior or a substance. So, have we just been busy pointing fingers or have we tried to be part of the solution?